This summer was the season of freedom for my 16-year-old daughter. Remember that first summer when you had your driver’s license and some spending money in your pocket, and you could head out to the beach whenever you wanted to? It was exhilarating. With her freedom comes mine. I’ve got less driving around to summer activities and sleepovers. I’m starting to feel the reigns of obligations slip off me and with that I can feel myself ready to start discovering me. Not the person I was pre-kids – she’s long gone. This new me has a lot more wisdom and confidence. Here are a few things the new me and my life after 50 is excited to do: The new me is anxious to try new things. I used to be intimidated to try a new class at the gym for fear I’d look like an idiot because I couldn’t keep up. Not anymore. Now I bravely stand at the front of the class and laugh when I screw up but even more importantly I’m proud that I did it and congratulate myself for the moves I could do. The new me is ready to have adventures. I saw a show the other day about these two people touring Thailand and visiting these incredible waterfalls. When you have kids it’s darn near impossible to have trips like that. Disney is the ultimate adventure and while that was fun, I’m ready for the real world not a place that recreates adventures. The new me is ready for the next big leap in my career. For years now I’ve made my living blogging and doing TV segments about safety and wellness. Don’t get me wrong – I love it and will continue to do that. The way my career started was because of the death of my first son. It drove me to want to help save other kids’ lives. As I’ve gotten older new things drive me. Listening to women who are scared to leave a relationship or start a new career or struggle with being a caregiver motivate me. I love speaking to these women and offering them support and guidance. I envision a world of confident and happy women and, through retreats and speaking engagements, I want to create that.
The new me is ready to have a few deep friendships. When we’re in our 30’s and 40’s we’re building a career and/or family that consumes our time. Our friendships tend to be created around the interests of our kids. Some high school and college friendships remain but get-togethers are few and far between and finding current commonalities is tough. For years my girls have been involved in All-Star cheerleading. For those of you not familiar with this sport, it’s year-round and requires a lot of travel. When you’re a “cheer mom” that other moms become your friends. But one day your cheer life ends and naturally these friendships fade. But a few transcend the mutual bond of cheer (or whatever activity your child is involved with) and you connect over the big issues. Now I have time for a few friendships that are based on mutual respect, shared beliefs and willingness to talk about the real stuff. You know the real stuff – our hopes and dreams but also the fears that keep us up at night.
The new me understands that my health is something I can’t take for granted. When I was in my 20’s and 30’s I worked out to have a hard body and look great. Now I work out to prevent osteoporosis and keep my heart in good shape. I used to choose my food based solely on what tasted good. Now I select food that tastes good and will provide me the nutrients I need to cut cholesterol and provide the right vitamins. When the kids were younger, I would always get them to their check-ups but mine would be missed because there wasn’t time. Now I realize that making the time for health screenings and exercise is what will allow me to live life to the fullest.
As I’m closing in on another birthday I’m loving who I’m becoming and can’t wait for the next chapter. What’s in your next chapter? Share below as writing it down makes it more real.